Re: [ET2] Living Creatively At The Genius Level? (was Teacher Trauma)

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> I'm glad you picked that one up.
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> If I make the equivalency with sexual child abuse, it is actually
>interesting to muse just how helpful adult attempts at reclaiming
>creativity, intelligence, systemic thinking, full deep level learning
>and even any change that has a learning aspect can possibly be with
>methods such as techniques and belief changes, affirmations and such.
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> Certainly, sex abuse survivors don't as a rule turn into purring sex
>kittens by reading a book or attending a few trainings, but need
>serious healing on the topic.

I will put my two cents worth in here. I don't know about your rules but I
know people and it has been my experience in particular trainings (they
attended only once) to see not only serious healing on the topic but sex
abuse survivors turn into purring sex kittens with ecology (tested 6
months, 18 months and 2 years later). Even though it was using Human
Performance Engineering(tm) it resulted in Even Flow as far as I can tell.

> Wonder what the equivalency of the purring learning kitten would be
>if such things were really resolved and healed entirely, with the
>resulting Even Flow?
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> Can we then revisit my original ideas on The Energy Of Learning?
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> That would be neat ...
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> Meantime, anyone who would like to share some school trauma
>publicly, come out of the closet as it were or just write it down just
>like some of the other kinds of abuse survivors find so very helpful,
>by all means!
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> I'm serious here guys.
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> You might have heard it said that "all change is learning",
>"knowledge is power" and other formative statements to that effect.
>Genius and creativity and all of that, applied to one's own life?

Silvia, you just wrote on [ET2] Re: Damage
Including patience with the "men" who may also have such emotions
but as they don't talk about them, might appear to not be striken
to the same extent as the sisterhood.

Statistics example: Public mails on 2 lists from 5 females
expressing similar processes being in action, from males none.

Which is exactly why I am so very keen to have the suffering
competitions STOP and focus on practical, simple systemics.

On one hand (damage email) you ask for the suffering competition to stop
and on the other hand (you have five more fingers) you encourage the
competition and ask others to share publicly their suffering.

As I wrote to you personally using the men vs women dichotomy. (My map of
course) Women seem to talk about feelings and then do something about them.
Usually loop them around or tuck them away to bring up at other times to
talk about. Men seem to not talk about feelings and emotions - suppress
them or act out because of them. Neither men nor women are use to releasing
the (useful/less useful) emotions. (Letting them flow)

When given tools to release (such as ET/EFT) men use the tools and don't
talk about it much. Women on the other hand seem to have a tendency to talk
about it and use the tool and them talk about it some more. This is just my
experience in my own private practice. It is not good or bad either way it
just is. Neither one is better than the other.

So in favor of your admonition to share a school trauma and being a male
I'll share my story of sexual abuse and how I dealt with it. (This is not
the case(s) I mentioned above.) BTW "Knowledge" is not power. It is
Potential Power. If it were power we'd be running cities off libraries.

(Note before starting: When are we really going to believe and use the
statements "It's all energy and It's just an energy? -This is not about
enlightenment but about words and actions lining up.) If it's true for ET
exercises it's true everywhere else.

It was spring of one of my Junior High School years, I had lived in this
orphanage for 6 of my 9 years. This one day I decided to skip school (this
is the school trauma part) and go build a fort in the corn field. So I hid
under the bed and as I was scooting out from under the bed behind me, in
the doorway was my female house parent (she was 22).

I turned around and I was caught. She sent me down to her room I knew I was
going to get my butt beat.

When she entered the room she asked me if I knew how to french kiss.

I said, "No."

She said, "Fathers usually teach their daughters and mothers usually teach
their sons. Would I like to learn how to french kiss?" I thought if it
keeps me from getting a spanking I'll give it a shot. (Remember, I had been
in the orphanage since I was 3 years old and I didn't know any better).

She proceed to teach me to french and later in the day is the 1st time I
was introduced to other parts of the female body, needless to say I never
got to build my fort.

On and off for three years I had emotional and sexual relations with this
woman (I missed a lot of school). I remember times sitting fully clothed on
the end of the bed with her and her explaining this was wrong and we
shouldn't be doing it and she didn't want to scare me for life. It didn't
feel wrong. (This orphanage just happened to be a very fundamentalist
church orphanage and sin there was worse than the guilt of Catholics sinning.)

As an adult I understand it is wrong/not accepted by society and I have
some very powerful ways to change adults minds and behaviors who have
tendencies toward this sort of behavior.

As a young man making my own meaning about what happened (not talking to
anyone -no one knew about it) I realized I could give it a meaning of
sexual abuse or how else could I give meaning to it. As I thought back on
it I realized some things that I could choose to take as positives because
of this experience.

1) A week after my 1st encounter with my house mother she stopped messing
with 3 other boys, my age and older, 17 was the oldest. One one hand I
saved 3 other boys from abuse on the other I was chosen over them which was
good for my self-esteem. I was never made to do anything I didn't agree too.

2) In high school and college when most guys and girls were out for
themselves I had learned how to emotionally and sexually please and satisfy
my partner.

3) Because of the length of the encounter with her I was/am monogamous with
all my sexual relationships.

4) I didn't think sex was dirty, disgusting or vulgar. It was and is
beautiful and something to experience with someone you care about.

5) I understand that sex and love are two different things and to confuse
the two can be damaging. You can have one without the other and you can
have one with the other.

There's my school/sex abuse trauma story. I hope it helps. My belief is
there is no victim or villain it is a matter of perception. So how do we
change perceptions? I believe the Even Flow of ET can be a very useful and
valuable tool in changing our perceptions.

Now about learning somewhere somehow I became curious, very curious about
spirituality and how the mind works. I got Piled Higher's and Deeper's in
Comparative Religions and Psychology, DCH, NLP, DHE, HPE, NS, Cognitive
Therapy and finally Sports Psy and Energy Psy/Medicine. None of this was
about fixing my past. It don't need fixin', it's the past it's over. What
do I want to do now? It's is mostly about curiosity and I think that is the
bedrock of The Energy of Learning.

Being and Becoming-aren't you,
Houston

            ++ Why is this happening to me again? ++
Kay Carliyn, The Woodlands, TX: Now I understand when Houston tells us,
"It's all spiritual, except when it's not. The 1st Fundamental makes this
true. I agree with Dr. Vetter, you don't have to give up what you believe,
this just makes what you believe work so much better. I now have peace of
mind, so naturally my thinking is clear, which makes my relationships work
much better through improved
communication." http://www.secretsuccess.com

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