Good story.
and there's a whole series of 'What could I do's' there.
What could I do if I wasn't afraid of ......other peoples' anger
.....poor
results
.......poverty
.......money
.......not
being loved
........being loved
........fear
What could I do if I wasn't afraid of being afraid?
I have been playing with Susan Jeffers' basic approach of 'feel the fear and
do it anyway' recently. In the way of seeing this truth. When I have an
issue there's two routes - there's the defense route that sticks with what
you need to feel safe right now which involves some downsides and isn't
ideal but you know at least how to do it and can keep the pain bearable -
and there's how it would be in an ideal world.
I have recognised that from the place one is currently standing there's
always crap either way.
There's crap in the fearful and defended place one stands in now and the
crap engendered thus will never cease. There's crap also in trying to behave
as if one were fearless in the matter. But at least the latter is headed
where you wish to go. At least there will come a day when fear no longer
shapes your life.
Now the real incentive to take this horrifying step is Emotrance. Cos if you
recognise what you have just said, Silvia, that this crap is all nonsense
anyway then you might as well be living the way you'd prefer to live and
trance the crap out of it from that position as opposed to staying in your
defended life and trancing what you can't bear.
I am very focused just now on applying energy therapies and other such
beauties from an enhancement point of view rather than a fixing. It is a
subtle business but based on the premise that you get what you focus on it
is a dodgy line we walk when we focus on problems in order to alleviate
them. It can be very 'away from' in motivation. It is what I am seeing in
staying defended and removing the pain when your defenses fail.
Alternatively you can jump right in there, behaving exactly as you would
wish to without barriers, and remove the pain that stands in the way.
I wonder if anyone else understands what I've said here. I'm not certain
I've expressed fully the essence of it. And of course to some people this
will have been self evident all along :-)
But I am very excited with my new concept - Feel the fear and trance it
anyway! LOL
So to return to the starting point of this. I am trying every day to live my
life as if I'm not afraid of anything. So far the first big try-out on
jealousy and exclusivity in relationship has been a scary success. Scary cos
for some moments the pain of having jumped over the barbed wire of my
defenses was indeed as bad as I had feared and I almost jumped straight back
over again. But denying the power of that pain (not in that instant with ET,
just mental choice) resulted in it being replaced by the deepest feeling of
relaxation I have felt in years.
I can totally identify with your disappointment experience Silvia and I am
intending to use ET in the same way every time I'm hit by something I don't
like. And as you say it can be quick, needn't be a big sit down performance.
Just requires previous intention and consistency. It is the pain we are
willing to accept and hold on to that keeps coming back and hitting us in
the face.
Wonder why we do that?
Linda
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From: "SF" <starfields_at_h3zSo8yCGRiINkHp9_4siQxTmjKkZScFeFwz6FGZ7rmKmG_3BoI1Yem7KmZswhAQ9Rzg-cgn_J8Oo33N9734kg.yahoo.invalid>
To: <emotrance2_at_yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 8:25 AM
Subject: [ET2] Disappointment Alleviated
>
> Yesterday, I went to a shop to collect something I'd ordered a while
> back. I was VERY excited about this and looking forward to it most
> tremendously.
>
> When I got there, the sales person asked me to take a seat at a desk.
> They sat on the other side and then told me that the item hadn't arrived
> yet and might not be available before Christmas at all.
>
> Instantly, something hit me that I can only call a massive wave of
> disappointment with such force, it brought tears to my eyes.
>
> I could feel my energy system falling apart and this FLOOD of nonsense
> thoughts came right with it, like bilge water pouring in complete with
> rats and floating garbage:
>
> "Nothing ever works! Nothing ever turns out the way I want it to! Oh why
> oh why did I delude myself thinking that life could ever be anything but
> hideous misery ..."
>
> But on this occasion, there was also a part of me that was OBSERVING the
> whole occurrence and just simply UNDERSTOOD COMPLETELY how there was no
> truth in these thoughts at all, how it was just "disturbed thinking" as
> a side effect of an energy system malfunctioning, and that it was really
> and truthfully "just an energy" situation happening.
>
> The sales person must have felt this huge energy freak out across the
> table because they looked very concerned, put their own hand on their
> stomach and started talking fast, how they would try their best to make
> it happen anyway, really they would ...
>
> I held up my hand flat and said to the sales person, "Please, be quiet
> for a moment. I have to deal with my disappointment here. Give me a
> moment, please."
>
> They fell silent and I just did my EmoTrance to straighten out the
> energy problem, which was easy and very fast.
>
> As the energy started to flow the right way round again, and I breathed
> a deep sigh of relief, I noted the stupid ideas and thoughts dissipating
> likewise.
>
> Christmas is just a random date. I'll get this thing eventually and what
> do a few days more matter? Nothing. I still want the thing, I'm still
> looking forward to it just as much as ever and this big smile came
> across my face.
>
> "There we are," I said brightly to the appalled sales person. "Now then,
> you were saying about what we can do to get a speedy delivery now?"
>
> I helped them happily over their confusion and focussed us back on the
> job in hand and left a few moments later, feeling completely fine and
> smiling to myself.
>
> Now, I've never done something like this before, in public, with a
> person who's got no idea of our worlds here, but it worked really
> splendidly.
>
> So that was excellent and interesting.
>
> I've also never before come out of a "disappointment" loop so fast and
> so easily. Ten seconds was all it took and I was fully functional and
> thinking straight again.
>
> I was FASCINATED how these "silly thoughts" just happened and how clear
> it was that there should have never been any arguing with these sort of
> thoughts.
>
> They're just pointless, illogical, wrong and don't MEAN anything at all
> - they're just garbage generated by a malfunctioning energy system and
> "not worth the paper they'e not printed on".
>
> In the past, I would have tried to "argue my way out".
>
> "Oh, of course nothing is ever good or will ever be good ..."
> "But the counter evidence! But the meta model violation! But ..."
>
> It doesn't work to argue with these screwy thoughts and its pointless,
> and to really experience how TRUE that is was brilliant.
>
> Lastly, I walked away from the experience with a whole new notion and
> idea of what life might be like if I was NO LONGER AFRAID OF
> DISAPPOINTMENT.
>
> I started to think about what I might like to try and do if I could
> handle random outcomes and wasn't afraid to feel those freaky feelings
> and have those freaky thoughts if things went "horribly hideously
> wrong".
>
> What could and would YOU do if the diappointment demon was no longer a
> threat?
>
> Hmmm...
>
>
> SFX :-)
>
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Received on Thu Dec 09 2004 - 09:08:42 GMT
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