Request for contributions

For any practitioner, secondary gain is an important consideration in a healing situation. But try explaining to someone in pain and/or despair that a part of them is holding onto their problem for the benefits they get out from it, and most will not understand. At best they will misconstrue what you mean by secondary gain, at worst will terminate the healing relationship believing you to be blaming them for their problems, and feeling worse than before.

However given how vital a consideration it is, I believe it must be addressed if whatever healing modality the practitioner is using is to stand a chance of making a lasting impact.

Toward this end I want to write a book explaining secondary gain in a way that clients can understand, and what better way than real life examples from the very people who are trained to help them, people who not only understand what secondary gain is, but also what effect it can have on the healing process if left unaddressed.

So I’m asking for your help. Tell me your stories (tina_at_edensfields.co.uk), give me permission to use them in my book, and not only will you be making a huge contribution to the healing movement and the health of clients everywhere, but I will advertise your details in a practitioner directory and you will receive a free copy of the book.

For those who are unsure what I mean by secondary gain, the book was inspired by this superb quote:

“A few years ago I read a story about Jesus asking a lame man at the pool if he wanted to be healed. It seemed a rather strange question to ask a cripple because I thought the answer would be an obvious yes. Now I’ve come to realise that it isn’t quite that simple. When you’re crippled – whether it be physically or emotionally – people make allowances for you. You do the same for yourself. The lame man knew that once he could walk, he’d be expected to join the healthy people and work for his living. His whole way of life would change – probably for the better in the long run, but in short term everything would be strange and new. He’d no longer have any excuses.

What would I say if Jesus asked me that? I don’t honestly know. I am afraid. Right now everyone leaves me alone. Nothing is expected of me. If I have a bad day I have an excuse. But what happens if I ever get “better”? Will I be able to cope with what’s expected of me?”

“Out of the Dark, one woman’s harrowing journey to discover her past”

By Linda Caine & Robin Royston

Warmest regards
Tina

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