Re: [ET2] Living Creatively At The Muppet Level

At 07:28 PM 5/28/2003 -0700, you wrote:
>Dear all
>
>
>I feel saddened by this communication about such personal trauma... While
>I am still feeling it in my body as I write, my state of separation isn’t
>doing so well with ET ­ and this is my first post and propelled by my
>emotions. It’s doubtless activated by all my stuff about ‘not feeling heard’.

Linda,

I hear you and I read that you hear me also thank you.

The reason I wrote my story in the first place was because of two thing
Silvia said in two different emails and they were:
Statistics example: Public mails on 2 lists from 5 females
expressing similar processes being in action, from males none.

and
Meantime, anyone who would like to share some school trauma
publicly, come out of the closet as it were or just write it down just
like some of the other kinds of abuse survivors find so very helpful,
by all means!

I'm serious here guys.

You might have heard it said that "all change is learning",
"knowledge is power" and other formative statements to that effect.
Genius and creativity and all of that, applied to one's own life?

>It seems to remind me that when we are experiencing an upsurge of our own
>trauma it is so impossible to honour or have compassion for someone
>else’s. While I was reading Doc’s email my sense was that he was sharing
>something very precious ­ but obviously deeply personal and therefore
>'different'. And maybe I was able to empathise more easily than usual
>with the masculine perspective ­ and it also touched that part of me that
>has been mother to a son. I felt deeply for the vulnerability of such a
>young boy living in an institution and the complete lack of trust in any
>adult around him.

Thank you and the interesting thing is I learned to trust myself in the
situation and that allowed me to trust other people (adults included) to be
themselves, without judgement.

>And I felt the violation of that total lack of choice. I was also aware
>that this could even be the first time of sharing so publicly and I felt
>appreciation for that. Because I do not know the mystery of being male
>and because it didn’t activate my own trauma - I didn’t compare it

You are welcome. A useful skill that I was fortunate to develop is to be
able to leave myself (beliefs etc) behind and step into another human
(male/female) and take on their beliefs and their energy field. Using the
Emotrance metaphor it seems to invite this type of exploration. It is a fun
exercise to practice. I wonder, if you could, how would you?

> ­ but in retrospect I can feel how different it’s resonance is to the
> intrusive and disempowering violation of a girl child by an adult male.

Totally agree and it may be the same in violation of a male/boy child by
and adult male. I did mention that in my case which was different than
other cases. I was never forced or made to do anything against my will.

> I can also sense how it might deeply wound that part of the masculine
> psyche of which I have no direct experience. I therefore appreciated
> the ways in which you managed to reassure yourself by finding what was
> positive and loving in such a disempowering experience. While it might
> have been possible to interpret your words as ‘I did this’ and ‘so why
> couldn’t you’ ­ I didn’t receive it that way and just appreciated your
> letting us share a deeply personal experience ­ and as you remind us,
> around your own suffering.

Thank you Linda for not personalizing and receiving benefit from my experience.

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Received on Thu May 29 2003 - 09:16:34 BST