RE: [ET2] Living Creatively At The Genius Level? (was Teacher Trauma)

At 11:10 AM 5/28/2003 +0000, you wrote:
>Thank you, Silvia.
>Frankly, I resent the implication that anyone here is engaging in some kind
>of suffering contest.
>So you managed to see your abuse as a situation which had some positive
>results. Well bully for you. Really that's great. But the same doen't go for
>all of us.
>For Christ's sake, no my abuse from my cousin has not imroved my ability to
>have functional relationships, taught me about the joy and beauty of sex or
>anything else. It hurt and it still hurts and that's it. And I'm so sorry if
>my lack of joyous bloody acceptance about the whole thing offends anyone.
>Great if you can learn from this but don't even try to imply that the rest
>of us are inadequate because we can't/don't/won't.
>Perhaps some of us could be a little more sensitive in dealing with this
>kind of topic.

I choose to say more on this subject. I just reread my original post (I'm
surprised no one has mentioned HPE or asked where they could get more
information about it. I guess everyone just went to google and typed it in.)

I was not able to see the above point of view until I began to personalize
it (not simply take it as someone else's story) but take it personally from
someone's point of view who was not asked, was never given the opportunity
to agree or disagree with what was happening to them at the time.

 From that perspective it can cause defensiveness.

One of the presuppositions/beliefs of Cognitive Therapy is what people
say/write isn't the external truth/reality/ it isn't actuality it is what
is going on inside the person speaking. It is the internal truth/reality of
the person speaking.

I want to address something's here and I ask that they not be over
personalized but if you choose to do so please ET/EFT as you read this.

But first a definition that I hope you do take personally.

One of the useful things for people (men + women = people) that I have
found involves not guilt/blame/shame but the opposite.

When I've asked people about responsibility and accountability most of them
had associated guilt/blame/shame to responsibility so they didn't consider
accountability very much.

When I looked up the word responsibility in Webster's Dictionary it said
something about commitment. So I went looking for the original meaning of
the word.

Ability on the end means - the power and skill to do something.

"Re" the prefix at the being means - once again, do over

"spond" wasn't in ole dan'als book but I knew I was getting close. This
word has something to do with being able to do something over again.

I tracked "spond" down to the Greek (it's all Greek to me). It comes from a
Greek Musical term "sponde" meaning liberation, to liberate.

Are you beginning to get a good feeling for what this word means.

Responsibility is the power and ability to once again liberate. What would
happen if we were to take this personally?

Here is the part where ET/EFT may come in handy.

Using the Cog. Th. presupposition the feelings above of inadequacy,
sensitivity and not joyously accepting are all projections and that is ok.
So now what do we do with them? My mind-read is; there is a lot of energy
invested in those emotional words and the energy is either blocked or
flowing in a less than useful direction. Surely not Even Flow.

Do I believe anyone is inadequate? Inadequate meaning not having the skills
or power to do something. NO! I do not believe anyone is inadequate,
especially on this list.

My mind-read is that there may be some fear here but not inadequacy. What
would happen if we replaced fear with curiosity? What would we find out? We
could tap and/or ET this?

A quote from MY Grampa Vetter would work well here. "One of the steps to
reclaiming your life has to do with eliminating the fear of other people.
As long as you are afraid of other people you are afraid of yourself as
well." Angry, mad, upset are all based in fear -fear that you won't get
what you want.

Many times people think head knowledge is enough and then wonder why things
stay the same. Maybe we might need a little courage/strength or help to
even start.

Let's look at some of our options/choices.

We can do nothing and keep feeling the way we do now stuck in the blame
game. This is too big even for ET or EFT. It might work for others but I've
got a special situation. My situation is different. I've had it so long I
can't get rid of it that quick. It will take a long time, years even to get
over. You just don't understand.

We could actually use the tools and see what happens. (As a good friend of
mine repeats and we use in sports psy. "Do the Drills - Get the Skills) If
you do the drills to get the skills you'll be using the tools to get the
jewels.

We could get with a capable person (pay them if you choose or they ask) and
have them help us uses these tools. Forget about the "why's" and simple get
results. What would you do instead? Build that in.

Here is a very useful question to get us started.

If I could, how would I?

I hope this is practical enough!

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Received on Wed May 28 2003 - 10:38:46 BST