Re: [ET2] Sandra Is Right ...

 i just did this listening with my 22 year old self, still grieving a separation. she kept repeating, 'i didn't know, .......and had her tear- soaked pillow with her. i listened and et'd myself (now) and remarkably soon she looked at me, really saw me, and she had hope again, and we both felt much lighter. actually, she did listen to me a bit saying "i didn't know...i should have listened sooner (than 43 years later), and then i felt lighter too.

sandra is awesome!

this was a very major unresolved sadness i discovered yesterday morning.
thank you so much for sharing this right now.

nan

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Subject: [ET2] Sandra Is Right ...

I had a very interesting experience the other day when talking to a person who had suffered from a bereavement not long ago.

I was quite - uncomfortable and I noticed this as the conversation began; I did some quiet treatment on myself. And then I remembered something that Sandra was really stressing in her book and also in her lectures - to open up and just take it in, and that's all you have to do.

As soon as I remembered this, it was like a huge relief; I didn't have to heal the person, somehow raise the dead or make "it all alright", I just had to listen.

There was a bit of contortion and reversal to letting their grief come into me, and also some resonance of bereavements of my own to that which needed some work, but I did the best I could and I could *feel* the person becoming lighter, as though I was taking a burden from them by just listening and letting it in.

When they stopped, I would ask a gentle question to start the process up again and to test if there was more, nothing ET at all, just a general question about what the weather was like, or what they did next; and it took about 20 minutes and the person turned the corner and started talking about memories of good times they'd had.

They were *light*.

I wasn't now full of misery I'd taken from them at all either which I think is what can happen if people get this half right; I was light too, and very serene.

I also felt that I had achieved all manner of progress on bereavements of my own because of this energy work and a great sense of gratitude to the other person, instead of feeling they owed me for taking the time and trouble.

It's a funny thing but I came away from this with a real sense of gratitude to ET. That was the first time ever I had the sense that I'd bee able to actually KNOW WHAT TO DO AND WHAT TO SAY with a bereaved person to "make it better".

And it was as easy, or as hard, as opening up to it.

Sandra is right.

This is a super-powerful pattern that can really help people on both sides of the confession booth and the uses of which we haven't really begun to explore as yet.

Wow.

SFX

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