Re: [ET2] Re:Greif - update

On 13 Oct 2007, at 07:04, loolytoo wrote:

> Hi Sandra,
> Thats sounds very similar to the experience I had as well.
> I wonder what happens if someone uses ET when they have lost someone
> much closer to them and if they would be ready to even try to help
> their grief. Through this experience, I have noticed that people
> seem to need the grief and hold on to it in some way. I would be
> very cautious about offering a grief stricken person help, in case
> they feel cheated afterwards. I know that sounds wierd but do you
> understand what I mean?
>
> Lucy

Lucy,

Don't be worried about helping someone who is grief stricken, all
they will lose is the pain.

Once the pain is removed you get to process the cycle of feelings
cleanly and more honestly and get to the other side quicker.

A place where you can honour the person you have lost, their life and
what they meant to you and feel happy when you think of them not like
you have just been kicked in the chest which is not a nice way to
remember someone!

When my father died a few years ago I made a surprisingly quick
recovery.

We were very close and my family thought I was in shock or denial but
very quickly I was able to feel a warmth in my heart, instead of
horrendous pain, and smiled whenever I thought of him.

Also, with EmoTrance, I have come to know him better.

It's not just idealised memories I have of him as being this
wonderful father, he was far from that, but I have come to understand
his frailties and limitations and the effects they have had on me and
to completely accept them and love him unconditionally for what he
was, a very gentle sensitive soul.

So don't be worried about feeling you may cheat someone by helping
them get over their grief with EmoTrance, on the contrary, you will
give them so much more than they ever could have imagined.

:)

Nicola

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Received on Sat 13 Oct 2007 - 02:30:41 BST