Re: [ET2] Teacher Trauma

Dear Silvia,

Oh how I agree with you! When I started EFT I worked on my own stuff, lots from school days. Two weeks ago I had client who came to me for "exam stress", she is a mature student doing ophthalmology and she had 10 exams to face in one week. Ten minutes or so in to the EFT the following story came out. At the age of 8, her family moved to Africa. Although her father was a teacher, her brother remained at school in UK because his education was important. There were no english speaking schools in the area. The brother did not like being left, and went out to Africa where their father taught him, however as my client was told she was "unteachable" by her father, she was not educated at that time. This lady has become an "eternal"student in adult life and the level of stress induced when she approaches exams leaves her on valium, she also suffers from an alarming number of physical problems. However she is at this point, still determined to prove her father wrong, by sheer willpower. A lesson for us all, I am sure
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Bright Blessings
Barbara
  ----- Original Message -----
  From: StarFields
  To: ET2 ; MET
  Sent: Monday, May 19, 2003 3:42 PM
  Subject: [ET2] Teacher Trauma

  Dear all,

  I am involved with a project at the moment and during the course of
  this, the topic of "trauma inflicted on children by teachers" arrived.
  I was specifically there to NOT talk shop and had sworn to myself to
  leave my pointy therapist's hat firmly at home. When I heard someone's
  story, I couldn't help myself but make a small comment in the PS that
  although the person themselves might not need healing (!!), the small
  child who was so terribly hurt by the incident probably still did.

  I was not prepared for the flood of mail which followed.

  This is not a therapy related project, no-one else there is a
  therapist, these are all kinds of people from all walks of life age
  16 - 70 and I just really couldn't believe the amount of "stuff" about
  teacher experiences came out, pouring out, just like that.

  I would guess that 50% or more of the group related traumatic
  incidents with teachers. I'd classify half of it as true trauma and
  the rest as extremely strong negative formative experiences. The
  charges on it, too - whoa.

  In the light of this, and of how common it was (and is for the ones
  still at school) AND what repercussions this has had over the lives of
  these people once they came out of the closet just like sex abuse
  survivors (I was truly shocked at the similarities in structure!) I
  would draw your personal attention to the topic of "teacher abuse" or
  "teacher induced trauma".

  Clearly not everyone has it but those who do and have never thought of
  it in terms of something that really does need healing and accounts
  for all sorts of previously mysterious/bizarre/unexplained behaviours,
  might like to revisit those memories and do something about it now
  that it's come up.

  The learning scenario has *a great great deal* to do with self
  actualisation; those who seek it might find some very interesting
  clues, explanations and more importantly, resolutions for the sake of
  a quick trip down memory lane to the so called "best years of your
  life".

  SF

  PS: Here's just one of the many stories to get you in the mood.

>>>>> I had this English teacher from the age of about 12 to 14, I
  will never forget that woman. I still hear comments she made in my
  head sometimes -
  she must have really traumatised me or something.

  Once I went for an audition for the school play and me and another
  girl were going for the same role. The other girl got up and had
  memorised her part and just rattled it off with no intonation and kept
  fidgeting about and giggling and was completely not in character.

  I got up and did my best, except I hadn't memorised my part since we
  only had a day or so to prepare. Not being big-headed but I *knew* I
  was better than the other girl. Anyway, this teacher pinned the
  audition results up on the board and she had given every single person
  who had gone for the auditions a role in the play.

  Except for me.

  I was the prompt.

  At the time I thought it was the most humiliating experience of my
  life, of course I never was the prompt, I never went to any of the
  rehearsals.

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Received on Tue 20 May 2003 - 00:07:55 BST