Re: Sandra Is Right ...

Hi,

Thank you for sharing your experience on dealing with bereavement. It
is interesting at this time, as bereavement is at the fore at the moment
- I seem to notice - personally - that this is a keyword that has been
popping up frequently. (I apologies for the grammer bit! not good at
explaining sometimes).

I have tried Sandra's technique of opening up and just taking it in. I
actually worked on my son, who was going through a tough part of
emotions, he just could not communicate with me, so I just sat on the
sofa and thought right, okay, lets open up, lets find out where I feel
this in my body, and lets soften and flow and within minutes his facial
expression changed. The tears and sadness were no longer there, he
looked much more calmer and more serene. Those few minutes has made
such a big difference, and he has now got his "get up and go" and he
has got his enthusiastic buzz back. He hasn't looked back since.

Lesley

--- In emotrance2_at_yahoogroups.com, "SFX" <sfx@...> wrote:
>
> I had a very interesting experience the other day when talking to a
person who had suffered from a bereavement not long ago.
>
> I was quite - uncomfortable and I noticed this as the conversation
began; I did some quiet treatment on myself. And then I remembered
something that Sandra was really stressing in her book and also in her
lectures - to open up and just take it in, and that's all you have to
do.
>
> As soon as I remembered this, it was like a huge relief; I didn't have
to heal the person, somehow raise the dead or make "it all alright", I
just had to listen.
>
> There was a bit of contortion and reversal to letting their grief come
into me, and also some resonance of bereavements of my own to that which
needed some work, but I did the best I could and I could *feel* the
person becoming lighter, as though I was taking a burden from them by
just listening and letting it in.
>
> When they stopped, I would ask a gentle question to start the process
up again and to test if there was more, nothing ET at all, just a
general question about what the weather was like, or what they did next;
and it took about 20 minutes and the person turned the corner and
started talking about memories of good times they'd had.
>
> They were *light*.
>
> I wasn't now full of misery I'd taken from them at all either which I
think is what can happen if people get this half right; I was light too,
and very serene.
>
> I also felt that I had achieved all manner of progress on bereavements
of my own because of this energy work and a great sense of gratitude to
the other person, instead of feeling they owed me for taking the time
and trouble.
>
> It's a funny thing but I came away from this with a real sense of
gratitude to ET. That was the first time ever I had the sense that I'd
bee able to actually KNOW WHAT TO DO AND WHAT TO SAY with a bereaved
person to "make it better".
>
> And it was as easy, or as hard, as opening up to it.
>
> Sandra is right.
>
> This is a super-powerful pattern that can really help people on both
sides of the confession booth and the uses of which we haven't really
begun to explore as yet.
>
> Wow.
>
> SFX
>

           
Received on Sun May 11 2008 - 04:07:49 BST