EmoTrance & Abuse Survivors

I've just received a feedback form from one of my sites where someone
was asking about EmoTrance for child abuse survivors.

I wrote the following:

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I'm also a surviver and I can attest to the fact that EmoTrance is the
gentlest and most helpful form of dealing with the very real "feelings"
one is often overcome by, in real time and in the real world.

Indeed, the fact that you don't have to relive anything, actively
forgive anything, and for once you can just go with what your body and
your feelings are telling you, and it doesn't matter "if it's real or
just imagined", has been a complete godsent to me personally and proven
its value and practical helpfulness in many different contexts.

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Now child abuse is a wide and varied thing; it's difficult because the
memories as to the exact sequences of events, police memories if you
will, are often unclear, skewed, seen through a child's eyes and
sometimes just not there, at least not at the top conscious level.

You get dreams and nightmares too, weird flashbacks and all sorts of
thoughts over the years and in the end you don't known at all what's
what - only that you have all these symptoms and you know something went
on that was deeply disturbing.

It is true that one of the reasons I was looking for something that did
not rely on conscious awareness and the ability to come up with exact
and precise opening statements is because of my personal experiences on
the topic.

To be able to "cut out all the talk" - and with that, all the
justifications, the reasons, the possible flaws in the memories and the
arguments, the conflicts and the FEAR of what else might be there - was
a positive GODSENT to me.

To be able to validate my "weird" emotional responses to "perfectly
normal" situations and just accept them for a sign to what needed
healing and restoring was also immensely helpful.

Rather than having to switch off my body sensations, I could finally
listen to them, acknowledge them and USE THEM for self healing.

It got me "back into the body" for the first time in, oh, 40 years or
so, and it allowed the process to procede under its own steam, in its
ecology, as and when, and WITHOUT FEAR or any kind of major abreaction,
major operation, re-traumatizing super events or anything of that nature.

EmoTrance is amazing in its presuppositions and in how it works.

There's nothing quite like it, and the total NON-JUDGEMENTAL nature of
all its workings, which for some people seems strange and even sometimes
too logical and systemic, is exactly what the doctor ordered for child
abuse survivors, and especially child SEX abuse survivors.

It has to be ABSOLUTELY systemic and non-judgemental or else the aspects
of us who hold all that shame and guilt and grief and anger simply
CANNOT benefit from any healing - they are structurally excluded.

And of course, I don't even want to begin to start talking about the
aspects who may have identified with the abuser/s, connected to them or
patterned themselves on them in some way - those never get a look in in
the standard "You were just the innocent victim and that bastard must
burn in hell and you need to get that or else you'll never heal!"
approaches of psychotherapy and many other doctrines of psychology and
spiritual healing.

The whole concept of "innocent energy" derives EXACTLY from my own
personal experiences on the topic, and what I have learned by
interacting with many other abuse survivors over these many years.

All the re-unificaiton processes of EmoTrance, all the weight on the
systemic nature and structure of injuries and how they relate firstly to
emotion, and from there manifest in thought and behaviour (action) were
first of all road tested right there - in the abuse survivor scenarios,
in the high end trenches of psychological and energetic disturbance.

Further still, the "client - practitioner dance" at the heart of the
co-joint healing endeavour between two EQUALS, where the "healer" is
literally FORBIDDEN to tell anyone what is wrong with them, how they
should be feeling, and where they are ONLY allowed to focus on "putting
to right what once went wrong", only FOLLOW ALONG with the person's own
special unfoldments and even then, ONLY when and if the person in
question is ready and willing, all that is patterned directly on the
needs of child abuse survivors.

Of course, these "failsafes" build right into the very structure of
EmoTrance are of benefit to ANYONE AT ALL, and it doesn't matter where
they got their disturbances from, but you just can't have any healing
modality and NOT get at least some of the originator's main aims and
outcomes built into that somewhere along the line.

It is curious that I should not have written on the topic before; but
this could be simply because I am just so used to living with this, it
*is* my life and what can I say - fish and water, if you're a fish, you
don't think to bang on about the water all around, do you.

If anyone would like to ask me any questions, on list or backchannel,
about child sex abuse, either past or in the post-evolved form, and
EmoTrance, by all means, feel free to write to me.

I have extensive experience with the topic and perhaps the time has come
to do something more public with it.

Blue green to all,

Silvia

Silvia Hartmann
http://SilviaHartmann.com

           
Received on Sun Nov 06 2005 - 16:55:35 GMT