Fwd: Ideas on how.

Hi all,

Dr. Vetter sent this exercise to me, and it's really,
really good. I haven't had a chance to try it out
because I don't watch. So far each time I went
looking for a talk show, nothing was on.

I never, EVER thought I would look forward to watching
trash TV. Life is funny that way.

Anyway, I love that book, The Four Agreements by Don
Miguel Ruiz. This exercise helps learn to keep one of
the four agreements - Don't take things personally.
Nice.

Burton

--- docresults <docresults_at_y1jxqYACmndtvkBZzZCwelS-4cc6Dj1G6DHYL2bVdb7sXCMOeHO4fhSd2GBYbno2N.yahoo.invalid> wrote:
> Date: Fri, 30 May 2003 17:36:34 -0500
> To: "letuslook" <letuslook_at_cu23UZxQgnBygAk8l0CyHw7LUF9wY7LQDXHO3nyuTJFlvKd_llnx1dAWnC5Xnap37JZf_RotAfwdGYJFbP4.yahoo.invalid>
> From: docresults <docresults_at_y1jxqYACmndtvkBZzZCwelS-4cc6Dj1G6DHYL2bVdb7sXCMOeHO4fhSd2GBYbno2N.yahoo.invalid>
> Subject: Idea's on how.
>
> At 01:31 PM 5/30/2003 +0000, you wrote:
>
> >Houston,
> >
> >I liked your post. I was wondering if you have any
> suggestions on
> >how to "personalize it"? How did you even know to
> do this?
> >
> >I used to be absolutely horrible at this, telling
> people things that
> >offended them. My intentions were perfectly good,
> but they took it
> >differently from intended.
> >
> >Now I'm learning even if I expect it, I don't
> always figure out in
> >advance how offense might be taken - which is
> something else to
> >overcome.
>
>
> Burton,
>
> First let me say that personalizing something is
> neither good nor bad. It
> is just a skill we all have that we may not be aware
> of how we can use it
> to better ourselves.
>
> The way most people personalize something (which
> IMHO is less than useful)
> is to read/hear/listen to something and think what
> they are receiving is
> all about them not the other person's story. (It may
> be true but without
> verification it is projection of their own selfs)
>
> Personalizing less than usefully - No matter what
> anyone says to you (boss,
> girlfriend, wife, children, friend, stranger) take
> as if they are saying
> something ABOUT you (not to you).
>
> Here is a good exercise, for a day or for half a day
> or even a 1/2 hr.
> Watch a TV show any show will do but it may be
> easier to use a talk show
> (Springer, Lake, Jones). No matter who the guest is
> take everything that is
> said about the person as if the audience was
> actually saying it about you.
>
> (Now a way to use this that might be more useful is
> to do the same exercise
> using Oprah because they say positive more useful
> things about their guest
> usually.)
>
> Now here is a way to use Personalizing in a more
> useful way. (I think the
> way you were asking about when you wrote.
>
> Take one of the shows (Springer, etc) and instead of
> taking it personally
> for you, step out of you, pretend, however you can
> that you are the other
> person (not you but them) notice what beliefs that
> would have? An easy
> question to ask yourself is to have this feeling
> what would I have to
> believe? You can also do this with the audience
> members. It's a fun exercise.
>
> Burton, I encourage you to do all these exercises.
> It will make you more
> flexible, have more choices and it may get you to
> the point that
> enlightened people speak of, where you see that
> there none of it is right
> or wrong, it just happens to be the perception/view
> they are holding at the
> time and it is their choice to keep or change it.
>
> Another side effect may be you realize that
> everything is nowhere near as
> separated as most people claim, it is holding
> tightly to one perspective at
> a time instead of letting them flow just as energy
> is to flow through so
> are perspectives.
>
> I did an experiment with a client. She agreed
> consciously for thirty days
> to constantly change perspectives and always take
> the opposite of her
> normal perspective in any stressful situation.
>
> She said at first it was difficult and as she looked
> at it as a game it got
> easier and at the end of the thirty days she
> understood why she and other
> people get stuck all the time.
>
> Then I told her about the Energy
> Psychologies/Medicine (ET/EFT/Thought
> Flow/etc) She went inside and checked with her self
> and said she realized
> she didn't need these tools as much now, maybe
> before, because she could
> now stay tremendously happy with what anyone said or
> did just letting the
> perspectives flow through.
>
> She said it opened up all possibilities to her.
>
> That would be an example of effecting the energy
> body from the T-M System +
> physical.
>
> I hope this helps a lot.
>
> Need Nothing, Desire Everything, Choose What Shows
> Up,
> Enjoy Life-It's ALL Information, Utilize It ALL,
> Doc Houston
> Dr. Houston Vetter, Peak Performance Coach
> Power Thinking Program www.secretsuccess.com
> To subscribe to the Power Thinking Newsletter go to
> www.secretsuccess.com

__________________________________
Do you Yahoo!?
Yahoo! Calendar - Free online calendar with sync to Outlook(TM).
http://calendar.yahoo.com

           
Received on Sat May 31 2003 - 20:21:03 BST